Raising children is...
I am sitting at the dining room table with our
youngest. He is painting and talking to
himself. He has chosen to paint the
entire page black, along with his hand and part the table. I am not reading anything into this.
“This colour… green, this colour… me don’t know, this colour
lellow.”
I am so grateful he is content.
He wasn’t a little while ago when my husband left to take
the older two to gymnastics.
He is three and I love all his squishiness and his conversations
and his cuddles and his need for me to kiss his eina’s (sore spots that arise
when being a boisterous 3-year old).
Just recently, however, he has started testing and pushing and all of
those other parenting- a-3-year-old type words. The most jarring moment of late
was when he screamed how he wanted another mommy and that I was to leave and
how much he disliked me. This was before
he very vocally rejected the food he had chosen and wanted to eat mine. Did I mention we were at a restaurant?
He was hungry, I get it.
And I am sure it is all probably normal in the realm of what normal is.
He shares a room with our 8-year-old daughter who agonizes
many mornings about what she is going to wear.
She is beautiful and spunky and gets so overwhelmed so much of the
time. She is so strong in character, all
three of them are. Lately she has been something
like a sledgehammer to my heart. She is
so defiant at times, it’s the anxiety, and so busy, so disinterested. Yet she is so clever and she is doing so much
better learning now that she is being home schooled.
Our eldest son is growing up all of a sudden. I am really
enjoying him. He has become an avid reader and is learning with enthusiasm, something
that was not happening at school. School. By the end of his last term at school he started
wetting his bed again, at the age of 9 (I have his permission to share that).
He has never enjoyed when my husband and I have a disagreement, but he has
started to panic when we disagree. He is
so scared we will be getting divorced.
Each time we explain we to him that we love each other and believe in
each other and marriage and we will fight for our marriage, an explanation that
always comes too late.
Parenting is so hard.
It is so impossibly hard watching the people you love most be crushed by
themselves and the world. It is equally
hard being beaten down by them and their defiance and dissatisfaction and
normal child-likeness.
Psalm 127 The Passion Translation (TPT)
God and His Gifts
127 A song of the stairway, by King Solomon
1 If God’s grace doesn’t help the builders,
they will labor in vain to build a house.
If God’s mercy doesn’t protect the city,
all the sentries will circle it in vain.
2 It really is senseless to work so hard
from early morning till late at night,
toiling to make a living for fear of not having enough.
God can provide for his lovers even while they sleep!
3 Children are God’s love-gift; they are
heaven’s generous reward.
4 Children born to a young couple will one day rise to
protect
and provide for their parents.
5 Happy will be the couple who has many of them!
A household full of children will not bring shame on
your name
but victory when you face your enemies,
for your offspring will have influence and honor
to prevail on your behalf!
I was reminded when I read this Psalm in my Bible reading
last week that children are a gift and a blessing. I particularly like how The Passion
Translation puts it, “they are heaven’s generous reward.” They are a love-gift and keeping that in the
front of one’s mind changes the way one parents.
We daily, intentionally, strategically fight for our
children and the people they will grow up to be.
We know well that we could not do any of this life without
the gracious love of God.
Parenting is hard, but it is also rich and beautiful and I
am so grateful that I get to experience this life with my children (and my amazing
husband.)
Love your people well, friends, fiercely and
without abandon. While it may cost you much, it will gain you so much more.
I hope this finds you well.
Philippa
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